Sunday, November 30, 2014

Forging Connections

Vulnerability is one of the more difficult character traits that we as humans possess. Some people find it hard to open themselves up and to be susceptible to being hurt. To fully embrace vulnerability can be a tough, yet very rewarding experience. It allows one to fully embrace who they are and to let the people around them in and show them who they are and what they have been through. Brene Brown said being vulnerable is necessary and I would agree with her. For me being vulnerable has been uncomfortable, but they say when you go outside of your comfort zone you truly experience growth and learning. In my close relationships I have seen that these people around me who care about me want me to be vulnerable with them because it shows a sense of trust and security with who I am with them and what they mean to me. I have found that opening up is good and it feels great to let ourselves be deeply seen by others and I think for that reason that the advantages outweigh the disadvantages. There is always going to be a chance that we will get hurt or we will be betrayed, but that is a risk we are willing to take to share in these moments of true intimacy and closeness. Brene Brown said being vulnerable is “to do something where there are no guarantees” and this is a reason why being vulnerable can be challenging for people. A lot of people are scared of uncertainty and lack of guarantees; they are afraid of the grey area.  

2 comments:

  1. Matt, I totally agree with the fact that the ability to be vulnerable stems directly from your trust towards someone. I think its a very slippery slope when it comes to opening up to people because all it takes is one person who hurts your feelings for you to struggle to trust anyone ever again. Being vulnerable is vital to living a healthy life and in order to open yourself up to vulnerability on a normal basis, you must have faith that people are going to take your feelings into consideration and truly listen to you.

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  2. I also agree that it is import to be vulnerable in your relationships because opening up to people and showing them who you really are is the only way to really grow and strengthen a relationship. Once you see that someone accepts you for who you really are and you accept them back, then an extremely strong bond is formed.

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